"Karma is a bitch", the phrase we hear and use all the time when things go wrong. What we don't realise, Karma teaches you something, not to be repeated. What I've learned from Karma, trending topics can influence people to engage and inspire one another. If your lucky enough, they can help you have a relationship women claim to be "ok" with it.
Sex with no strings attached is mastered by women who can cheat and be in content with it. They know its wrong and they know what's coming for them. We all know how we (women) think we can conquer the world. And yes, we can. But what we cant do, is suppress our feelings for too long. (Your welcome to try).
Having a no strings relationship can be the best thing ever and the worst thing too. For women, it can be both. As much as its a relationship, certain guideline are in place to allow it to run smoothly. You know deep down your a booty call, so when you do get that 3am phone call, don't ask him "What do you want?" He will not send you a good night sms or call to check on how your dad is doing? No, its not a relationship, its an ass-relationship. The purpose of it is to make both parties feel good and be.
So how come this great idea always fails? Two things, women behaving like women and feelings. One can be avoided (depending on ur partner in crime) and one is inevitable. Feelings play a HUGE role and in an instance become the down fall of the relationship. Sometimes they build enough trust to know that good partners are out there. The sad thing is being a woman, you will have those 'I like him' moments. Best thing is to remind yourself what was the initial part of this contract.
Sex for women is emotional and we can and cannot separate the two. The reason we get caught up is because we want to believe our cookie is so good he will eventually want to keep it. We live the present in the future and assuming that's what's gonna happen eventually! Men are not good at reading women's minds and they will never be. That's why we get hurt. Mad at him for not calling you on your birthday. Letting you know he just got engaged. Or, tell you he wants to end it, in a civil manner.
As soon as the words 'its over' hit your emotional mind. You feel betrayed, robbed, used and don't understand WHY??? Its easy, your contract will not be renewed. Have a shed of decency and leave. Be civil, don't be a lunatic and call him to ask him why? Your time has been served, your free. As women we fail to understand why the man I love wants to leave me. Its because, you never told him.
What you can learn is that some man care and some just don't give a rats ass. If their 'happy' that's the end of the road. We (women) hold the biggest commodity in the game and yet misuse it. The ball is always in your court, you just gotta learn to serve it right and perfect. Be aware of your emotions and deal with them in your own time. Learn to THINK before you speak. Also, know that Karma is never shy.
If you plan to get into this kinda relationship. Know your place. Know your worth. Never be you at all times. Learn to manipulate your feelings, never assume. Play the game, not the rules (guidelines) and don't get caught up. Basically, be a man in a dress with killer body and mind and you have bagged it. If you can pull that off, your the biggest player in the game.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
The Open Letter,
This is an open letter to the parents we've never known but have met.Hope this letter restores lost relationships with the loved ones we've lost.
Dear Daddy, this year marks 20 years with out you. I'm a grown 22 year old woman (prefer chick) and it hurts not having a father around. I wanted a father who will give my boyfriends and guy friends a hard time. Threaten to kill and beat kids in my neighbourhood and be that man I look up too. There are some father daughter moments we could have shared. Moments that I could've hoped to pass on to my son.
I've been around you for 2 years after that, fate happened. I'd give my future riches to have you and mon for 24 hours! So much has been said about you. Some good and some bad. Some unbeleivable to a point were I'm happy to have never known you. I feel ashemed and sad to realise one day I would have idolised you. I'm grown, I understand your actions had escalated to a point you had no control over. I hope you learned, acknowledged your behaviour and have peace.
I wanted to get married, once upon a time. My father walking me to the other important man in my life. A father who would smile everytime he was called 'Ntatemogolo'. Me and my siblings would have really loved that. Your gone know, its been a while and too long. Yet your memories and priciples are not in vain. Robala ka Kgotso, o tla gopolwa, tlhompiwa le ratiwa, Modibane.
To my mom, to the best 7 years you've given me cannot be forgotten. I look at me today and hope to be a quater of what u are. You made sacrifises no woman should regret. With that you've and raised kids who live to restore that and beyond. Your days with me on earth were short and I thank the Lord for some of memories I hold. I remember the day you left us. I knew what was goin on yet no one wanted to tell me yet. The day before, Dineo and I prayed for your last supper. I asked you to atleast eat something and you said; "No". I think you knew it was time. I prayed it wasn't.
After your funeral when all were heading for the service, at home. I looked back to see you wave back, you didn't. A seven year old died with you that day. Yet your face in a coffin was all I could see.
I pray one day we will meet and talk. I have a million things to ask you. I want to cry, laugh and hold hands with you. Simple things that would make this void go away. I want you back, I want those stolen years back. I want those stolen momemts, arguments, punishments and unbreakable bonds back. NOTHING in the world can replece nor prepare you to deal with loss.
Your gone now, its been 15 years and still counting. I love you from the day you gave birth to me, to the day you left me in flesh. I will continue to love you. For it is your love that bonds us, your kids. We thank u and dad for that. We are a family regardless where we are, what we do and who we have become. We are a unit of love and forever will be. Happy Birthday, Love Pantso! ;)
*Tshire, I know that your dad loves n misses you too*
Dear Daddy, this year marks 20 years with out you. I'm a grown 22 year old woman (prefer chick) and it hurts not having a father around. I wanted a father who will give my boyfriends and guy friends a hard time. Threaten to kill and beat kids in my neighbourhood and be that man I look up too. There are some father daughter moments we could have shared. Moments that I could've hoped to pass on to my son.
I've been around you for 2 years after that, fate happened. I'd give my future riches to have you and mon for 24 hours! So much has been said about you. Some good and some bad. Some unbeleivable to a point were I'm happy to have never known you. I feel ashemed and sad to realise one day I would have idolised you. I'm grown, I understand your actions had escalated to a point you had no control over. I hope you learned, acknowledged your behaviour and have peace.
I wanted to get married, once upon a time. My father walking me to the other important man in my life. A father who would smile everytime he was called 'Ntatemogolo'. Me and my siblings would have really loved that. Your gone know, its been a while and too long. Yet your memories and priciples are not in vain. Robala ka Kgotso, o tla gopolwa, tlhompiwa le ratiwa, Modibane.
To my mom, to the best 7 years you've given me cannot be forgotten. I look at me today and hope to be a quater of what u are. You made sacrifises no woman should regret. With that you've and raised kids who live to restore that and beyond. Your days with me on earth were short and I thank the Lord for some of memories I hold. I remember the day you left us. I knew what was goin on yet no one wanted to tell me yet. The day before, Dineo and I prayed for your last supper. I asked you to atleast eat something and you said; "No". I think you knew it was time. I prayed it wasn't.
After your funeral when all were heading for the service, at home. I looked back to see you wave back, you didn't. A seven year old died with you that day. Yet your face in a coffin was all I could see.
I pray one day we will meet and talk. I have a million things to ask you. I want to cry, laugh and hold hands with you. Simple things that would make this void go away. I want you back, I want those stolen years back. I want those stolen momemts, arguments, punishments and unbreakable bonds back. NOTHING in the world can replece nor prepare you to deal with loss.
Your gone now, its been 15 years and still counting. I love you from the day you gave birth to me, to the day you left me in flesh. I will continue to love you. For it is your love that bonds us, your kids. We thank u and dad for that. We are a family regardless where we are, what we do and who we have become. We are a unit of love and forever will be. Happy Birthday, Love Pantso! ;)
*Tshire, I know that your dad loves n misses you too*
Sunday, March 13, 2011
F.A.M.E Killed Talent
Chris Brown was 16 and so was I, and I knew I found my Michael Jackson of the 21st century to grow old with. From his 2005 self titled debut album to ‘Exclusive’, which I think was his best work thus far. Followed by ‘Graffiti’, this album carried so much emotional weight and drama. The album was released after his assault charges against his girlfriend. Certain stores refused to sell it to the market and that wasn’t fair to him and fans.
It’s been 6 years since Chris Brown broke into our radios and TV to entertain us on and off the music scene. He has also made a name for himself to star and feature on the big screen. It’s a trend most artist have fallen for and some a good and some a better off doing music.
With four albums under ones belt, comes change. Change can be influenced and badly carried into ones work. F.A.M.E is Chris’ recent work and his badly done thus far. F.A.M.E is a combination of tracks he did on other projects and songs he was fooling around with. This really feels like a pressured project with less creative management. How does your management let you release this? The album is a combination of Chris’ last mixtapes and the music trending topic, Europop. The album feels so rushed that the song with teenage sensation Justin Bieber sounds ok, for a leaked track.
The album’s first single ‘Yeah x3’ came with its own controversy. It is rumoured to believe that Chris stole or sampled Calvin Harris’ beat. We’ve been dancing along to sampled music for a while now, some really don’t care. Followed by a song which I believe must have Soulja Boi’s filthy hands on it. “Look at me now” is the second single taken off the album and need I say it sounds ridiculous. His attempt to sample a Michael Jackson beat also sampled by SWV for ‘Right Here’ is appalling. ‘She Ain't you’ is the victim of badly produced sample. Maybe it was a great idea until delivery.
F.A.M.E is obviously influenced by Europe pop. It’s really safe to say we have lost the melodic and soulful Chris. Since some genius out there told Chris he sounds AMAZING as a rapper, this fool doesn’t know when to utilise his new “skills”. Chris’ rapping skills haven’t really sustained an album status, maybe for another co-joint mixtape. His choice in lyrics are close to whack and have to be seriously carved, he could hurt himself.
This album should have been scheduled for release maybe in December or early next year. We understand it takes time to perfect songs; maybe it’s what he needed. The reason this album will fail will be because of the pressure, lack of planning and lack of focus. I will compare him to his ex. Rihanna transcended from dark pop with ‘Rated R’ and moved to Europop with ‘Loud’. With her, it’s allowed of her to keep on changing because she can’t sing. Chris on the other hand has been the young soul in music and amazing with ballads. His writing skills are undoubltly phenomenon. Now with this atrocious work, he has jumped onto the band-wagon and horribly failed at it.
All artists have their low career moments. Let’s hope this will impact an “ah-ha” moment for Chris. Of cause the album is not all bad from start to finish. Tracks that are worth wasting your money on are, ‘All Back’, ‘Beg For it’, ‘Paper, Scissors, Rock’ ft. Timbaland n Big Sean and ‘Wet The Bed’ Ft. Ludacris. Yes, it will not be a great album without great collaborations, debatable production and less controversy, after all what’s fame without controversy?
It’s been 6 years since Chris Brown broke into our radios and TV to entertain us on and off the music scene. He has also made a name for himself to star and feature on the big screen. It’s a trend most artist have fallen for and some a good and some a better off doing music.
With four albums under ones belt, comes change. Change can be influenced and badly carried into ones work. F.A.M.E is Chris’ recent work and his badly done thus far. F.A.M.E is a combination of tracks he did on other projects and songs he was fooling around with. This really feels like a pressured project with less creative management. How does your management let you release this? The album is a combination of Chris’ last mixtapes and the music trending topic, Europop. The album feels so rushed that the song with teenage sensation Justin Bieber sounds ok, for a leaked track.
The album’s first single ‘Yeah x3’ came with its own controversy. It is rumoured to believe that Chris stole or sampled Calvin Harris’ beat. We’ve been dancing along to sampled music for a while now, some really don’t care. Followed by a song which I believe must have Soulja Boi’s filthy hands on it. “Look at me now” is the second single taken off the album and need I say it sounds ridiculous. His attempt to sample a Michael Jackson beat also sampled by SWV for ‘Right Here’ is appalling. ‘She Ain't you’ is the victim of badly produced sample. Maybe it was a great idea until delivery.
F.A.M.E is obviously influenced by Europe pop. It’s really safe to say we have lost the melodic and soulful Chris. Since some genius out there told Chris he sounds AMAZING as a rapper, this fool doesn’t know when to utilise his new “skills”. Chris’ rapping skills haven’t really sustained an album status, maybe for another co-joint mixtape. His choice in lyrics are close to whack and have to be seriously carved, he could hurt himself.
This album should have been scheduled for release maybe in December or early next year. We understand it takes time to perfect songs; maybe it’s what he needed. The reason this album will fail will be because of the pressure, lack of planning and lack of focus. I will compare him to his ex. Rihanna transcended from dark pop with ‘Rated R’ and moved to Europop with ‘Loud’. With her, it’s allowed of her to keep on changing because she can’t sing. Chris on the other hand has been the young soul in music and amazing with ballads. His writing skills are undoubltly phenomenon. Now with this atrocious work, he has jumped onto the band-wagon and horribly failed at it.
All artists have their low career moments. Let’s hope this will impact an “ah-ha” moment for Chris. Of cause the album is not all bad from start to finish. Tracks that are worth wasting your money on are, ‘All Back’, ‘Beg For it’, ‘Paper, Scissors, Rock’ ft. Timbaland n Big Sean and ‘Wet The Bed’ Ft. Ludacris. Yes, it will not be a great album without great collaborations, debatable production and less controversy, after all what’s fame without controversy?
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