Getting married lately seems like looking for a good looking taxi driver with great driving skills. Even better, a clean, smart,handsome taxi driver. It seems unlikely and unreal but if your lucky you might find him/ her. As human beings we want it all, the money, career, perfect partner and eternal happiness. We simply identify that as "THE GOAL". All of those can be achieved or granted but then what?
We've heard of the term sugar daddy's. The rich, powerful, influential, whisky drinking, skirt chasing old men who are young blood thirsty! They sound like fat vampires who trap their prey with money. These men prey on the weakness of young girls have and "provide" which seems like a "mutual agreement". We are so quick to judge these men call them by names! Sugadaddy, Papa Madlesa, Malome ATM, Ministers Of Finance etc. Society has drawn these men as disgusting pigs but I'd rather look at what triggers these men and their new found counter culture. They have made the trophy-young wife the latest gaming console and sex with them, the FIFA 11 game.
A relationship is a two way street, you give to get and get to give. The moment you marry someone, their needs come before yours and vice versa. And that's not a marriage fine print. Now the moment this system has a glitch and we don't report it, its time for certain virus' to attack your motherboard. In this case, the cheater virus would start to attack and fast. The void gets bigger and concisely he/her doesn't care. They do care enough to have meaningless sex with a 1st Year at tertiary and still kiss the wife goodnight. They care to book plane tickets to Mhlanga Rocks with the joint bank account with the wife. They care enough to store her numbers like a business mate. They care enough to make schedules surrounding the wife's whereabouts. And they care enough to sleep in her bed.
As the wife you feel robbed and humiliated when the relationship blows over. You did your part, you did your duties and still got the sour end of the deal. Maybe, just maybe if you didn't get too comfortable and forget his needs before your own he would have to order "take-aways". You didn't attend to him, someone did and he loved it. And I'm pretty sure, her numbers are still in his fone. As a wife, you chose to run with 20yr olds! You can't look young forever but I bet you can try! I don't think silicone boobs look good on a 90 year old! #justsaying
So who is to blame for this hot mess? Do we blame the man ordering take aways? Do we blame the wife for buying shoes instead of his partners attention? Do we blame the big guy who thinks with his lil' head? Or do we blame nobody at all? Its pretty simple, no man goes borrowing sugar if he has sugar diabetes! No man hires a limo to go chesanyama? No man would go to a brothel for a hug! Simply because no man leaves a good thing when he has it at home! Be that good someone for someone!
Friday, April 29, 2011
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Mind Over Heart
"Karma is a bitch", the phrase we hear and use all the time when things go wrong. What we don't realise, Karma teaches you something, not to be repeated. What I've learned from Karma, trending topics can influence people to engage and inspire one another. If your lucky enough, they can help you have a relationship women claim to be "ok" with it.
Sex with no strings attached is mastered by women who can cheat and be in content with it. They know its wrong and they know what's coming for them. We all know how we (women) think we can conquer the world. And yes, we can. But what we cant do, is suppress our feelings for too long. (Your welcome to try).
Having a no strings relationship can be the best thing ever and the worst thing too. For women, it can be both. As much as its a relationship, certain guideline are in place to allow it to run smoothly. You know deep down your a booty call, so when you do get that 3am phone call, don't ask him "What do you want?" He will not send you a good night sms or call to check on how your dad is doing? No, its not a relationship, its an ass-relationship. The purpose of it is to make both parties feel good and be.
So how come this great idea always fails? Two things, women behaving like women and feelings. One can be avoided (depending on ur partner in crime) and one is inevitable. Feelings play a HUGE role and in an instance become the down fall of the relationship. Sometimes they build enough trust to know that good partners are out there. The sad thing is being a woman, you will have those 'I like him' moments. Best thing is to remind yourself what was the initial part of this contract.
Sex for women is emotional and we can and cannot separate the two. The reason we get caught up is because we want to believe our cookie is so good he will eventually want to keep it. We live the present in the future and assuming that's what's gonna happen eventually! Men are not good at reading women's minds and they will never be. That's why we get hurt. Mad at him for not calling you on your birthday. Letting you know he just got engaged. Or, tell you he wants to end it, in a civil manner.
As soon as the words 'its over' hit your emotional mind. You feel betrayed, robbed, used and don't understand WHY??? Its easy, your contract will not be renewed. Have a shed of decency and leave. Be civil, don't be a lunatic and call him to ask him why? Your time has been served, your free. As women we fail to understand why the man I love wants to leave me. Its because, you never told him.
What you can learn is that some man care and some just don't give a rats ass. If their 'happy' that's the end of the road. We (women) hold the biggest commodity in the game and yet misuse it. The ball is always in your court, you just gotta learn to serve it right and perfect. Be aware of your emotions and deal with them in your own time. Learn to THINK before you speak. Also, know that Karma is never shy.
If you plan to get into this kinda relationship. Know your place. Know your worth. Never be you at all times. Learn to manipulate your feelings, never assume. Play the game, not the rules (guidelines) and don't get caught up. Basically, be a man in a dress with killer body and mind and you have bagged it. If you can pull that off, your the biggest player in the game.
Sex with no strings attached is mastered by women who can cheat and be in content with it. They know its wrong and they know what's coming for them. We all know how we (women) think we can conquer the world. And yes, we can. But what we cant do, is suppress our feelings for too long. (Your welcome to try).
Having a no strings relationship can be the best thing ever and the worst thing too. For women, it can be both. As much as its a relationship, certain guideline are in place to allow it to run smoothly. You know deep down your a booty call, so when you do get that 3am phone call, don't ask him "What do you want?" He will not send you a good night sms or call to check on how your dad is doing? No, its not a relationship, its an ass-relationship. The purpose of it is to make both parties feel good and be.
So how come this great idea always fails? Two things, women behaving like women and feelings. One can be avoided (depending on ur partner in crime) and one is inevitable. Feelings play a HUGE role and in an instance become the down fall of the relationship. Sometimes they build enough trust to know that good partners are out there. The sad thing is being a woman, you will have those 'I like him' moments. Best thing is to remind yourself what was the initial part of this contract.
Sex for women is emotional and we can and cannot separate the two. The reason we get caught up is because we want to believe our cookie is so good he will eventually want to keep it. We live the present in the future and assuming that's what's gonna happen eventually! Men are not good at reading women's minds and they will never be. That's why we get hurt. Mad at him for not calling you on your birthday. Letting you know he just got engaged. Or, tell you he wants to end it, in a civil manner.
As soon as the words 'its over' hit your emotional mind. You feel betrayed, robbed, used and don't understand WHY??? Its easy, your contract will not be renewed. Have a shed of decency and leave. Be civil, don't be a lunatic and call him to ask him why? Your time has been served, your free. As women we fail to understand why the man I love wants to leave me. Its because, you never told him.
What you can learn is that some man care and some just don't give a rats ass. If their 'happy' that's the end of the road. We (women) hold the biggest commodity in the game and yet misuse it. The ball is always in your court, you just gotta learn to serve it right and perfect. Be aware of your emotions and deal with them in your own time. Learn to THINK before you speak. Also, know that Karma is never shy.
If you plan to get into this kinda relationship. Know your place. Know your worth. Never be you at all times. Learn to manipulate your feelings, never assume. Play the game, not the rules (guidelines) and don't get caught up. Basically, be a man in a dress with killer body and mind and you have bagged it. If you can pull that off, your the biggest player in the game.
Friday, March 25, 2011
The Open Letter,
This is an open letter to the parents we've never known but have met.Hope this letter restores lost relationships with the loved ones we've lost.
Dear Daddy, this year marks 20 years with out you. I'm a grown 22 year old woman (prefer chick) and it hurts not having a father around. I wanted a father who will give my boyfriends and guy friends a hard time. Threaten to kill and beat kids in my neighbourhood and be that man I look up too. There are some father daughter moments we could have shared. Moments that I could've hoped to pass on to my son.
I've been around you for 2 years after that, fate happened. I'd give my future riches to have you and mon for 24 hours! So much has been said about you. Some good and some bad. Some unbeleivable to a point were I'm happy to have never known you. I feel ashemed and sad to realise one day I would have idolised you. I'm grown, I understand your actions had escalated to a point you had no control over. I hope you learned, acknowledged your behaviour and have peace.
I wanted to get married, once upon a time. My father walking me to the other important man in my life. A father who would smile everytime he was called 'Ntatemogolo'. Me and my siblings would have really loved that. Your gone know, its been a while and too long. Yet your memories and priciples are not in vain. Robala ka Kgotso, o tla gopolwa, tlhompiwa le ratiwa, Modibane.
To my mom, to the best 7 years you've given me cannot be forgotten. I look at me today and hope to be a quater of what u are. You made sacrifises no woman should regret. With that you've and raised kids who live to restore that and beyond. Your days with me on earth were short and I thank the Lord for some of memories I hold. I remember the day you left us. I knew what was goin on yet no one wanted to tell me yet. The day before, Dineo and I prayed for your last supper. I asked you to atleast eat something and you said; "No". I think you knew it was time. I prayed it wasn't.
After your funeral when all were heading for the service, at home. I looked back to see you wave back, you didn't. A seven year old died with you that day. Yet your face in a coffin was all I could see.
I pray one day we will meet and talk. I have a million things to ask you. I want to cry, laugh and hold hands with you. Simple things that would make this void go away. I want you back, I want those stolen years back. I want those stolen momemts, arguments, punishments and unbreakable bonds back. NOTHING in the world can replece nor prepare you to deal with loss.
Your gone now, its been 15 years and still counting. I love you from the day you gave birth to me, to the day you left me in flesh. I will continue to love you. For it is your love that bonds us, your kids. We thank u and dad for that. We are a family regardless where we are, what we do and who we have become. We are a unit of love and forever will be. Happy Birthday, Love Pantso! ;)
*Tshire, I know that your dad loves n misses you too*
Dear Daddy, this year marks 20 years with out you. I'm a grown 22 year old woman (prefer chick) and it hurts not having a father around. I wanted a father who will give my boyfriends and guy friends a hard time. Threaten to kill and beat kids in my neighbourhood and be that man I look up too. There are some father daughter moments we could have shared. Moments that I could've hoped to pass on to my son.
I've been around you for 2 years after that, fate happened. I'd give my future riches to have you and mon for 24 hours! So much has been said about you. Some good and some bad. Some unbeleivable to a point were I'm happy to have never known you. I feel ashemed and sad to realise one day I would have idolised you. I'm grown, I understand your actions had escalated to a point you had no control over. I hope you learned, acknowledged your behaviour and have peace.
I wanted to get married, once upon a time. My father walking me to the other important man in my life. A father who would smile everytime he was called 'Ntatemogolo'. Me and my siblings would have really loved that. Your gone know, its been a while and too long. Yet your memories and priciples are not in vain. Robala ka Kgotso, o tla gopolwa, tlhompiwa le ratiwa, Modibane.
To my mom, to the best 7 years you've given me cannot be forgotten. I look at me today and hope to be a quater of what u are. You made sacrifises no woman should regret. With that you've and raised kids who live to restore that and beyond. Your days with me on earth were short and I thank the Lord for some of memories I hold. I remember the day you left us. I knew what was goin on yet no one wanted to tell me yet. The day before, Dineo and I prayed for your last supper. I asked you to atleast eat something and you said; "No". I think you knew it was time. I prayed it wasn't.
After your funeral when all were heading for the service, at home. I looked back to see you wave back, you didn't. A seven year old died with you that day. Yet your face in a coffin was all I could see.
I pray one day we will meet and talk. I have a million things to ask you. I want to cry, laugh and hold hands with you. Simple things that would make this void go away. I want you back, I want those stolen years back. I want those stolen momemts, arguments, punishments and unbreakable bonds back. NOTHING in the world can replece nor prepare you to deal with loss.
Your gone now, its been 15 years and still counting. I love you from the day you gave birth to me, to the day you left me in flesh. I will continue to love you. For it is your love that bonds us, your kids. We thank u and dad for that. We are a family regardless where we are, what we do and who we have become. We are a unit of love and forever will be. Happy Birthday, Love Pantso! ;)
*Tshire, I know that your dad loves n misses you too*
Sunday, March 13, 2011
F.A.M.E Killed Talent
Chris Brown was 16 and so was I, and I knew I found my Michael Jackson of the 21st century to grow old with. From his 2005 self titled debut album to ‘Exclusive’, which I think was his best work thus far. Followed by ‘Graffiti’, this album carried so much emotional weight and drama. The album was released after his assault charges against his girlfriend. Certain stores refused to sell it to the market and that wasn’t fair to him and fans.
It’s been 6 years since Chris Brown broke into our radios and TV to entertain us on and off the music scene. He has also made a name for himself to star and feature on the big screen. It’s a trend most artist have fallen for and some a good and some a better off doing music.
With four albums under ones belt, comes change. Change can be influenced and badly carried into ones work. F.A.M.E is Chris’ recent work and his badly done thus far. F.A.M.E is a combination of tracks he did on other projects and songs he was fooling around with. This really feels like a pressured project with less creative management. How does your management let you release this? The album is a combination of Chris’ last mixtapes and the music trending topic, Europop. The album feels so rushed that the song with teenage sensation Justin Bieber sounds ok, for a leaked track.
The album’s first single ‘Yeah x3’ came with its own controversy. It is rumoured to believe that Chris stole or sampled Calvin Harris’ beat. We’ve been dancing along to sampled music for a while now, some really don’t care. Followed by a song which I believe must have Soulja Boi’s filthy hands on it. “Look at me now” is the second single taken off the album and need I say it sounds ridiculous. His attempt to sample a Michael Jackson beat also sampled by SWV for ‘Right Here’ is appalling. ‘She Ain't you’ is the victim of badly produced sample. Maybe it was a great idea until delivery.
F.A.M.E is obviously influenced by Europe pop. It’s really safe to say we have lost the melodic and soulful Chris. Since some genius out there told Chris he sounds AMAZING as a rapper, this fool doesn’t know when to utilise his new “skills”. Chris’ rapping skills haven’t really sustained an album status, maybe for another co-joint mixtape. His choice in lyrics are close to whack and have to be seriously carved, he could hurt himself.
This album should have been scheduled for release maybe in December or early next year. We understand it takes time to perfect songs; maybe it’s what he needed. The reason this album will fail will be because of the pressure, lack of planning and lack of focus. I will compare him to his ex. Rihanna transcended from dark pop with ‘Rated R’ and moved to Europop with ‘Loud’. With her, it’s allowed of her to keep on changing because she can’t sing. Chris on the other hand has been the young soul in music and amazing with ballads. His writing skills are undoubltly phenomenon. Now with this atrocious work, he has jumped onto the band-wagon and horribly failed at it.
All artists have their low career moments. Let’s hope this will impact an “ah-ha” moment for Chris. Of cause the album is not all bad from start to finish. Tracks that are worth wasting your money on are, ‘All Back’, ‘Beg For it’, ‘Paper, Scissors, Rock’ ft. Timbaland n Big Sean and ‘Wet The Bed’ Ft. Ludacris. Yes, it will not be a great album without great collaborations, debatable production and less controversy, after all what’s fame without controversy?
It’s been 6 years since Chris Brown broke into our radios and TV to entertain us on and off the music scene. He has also made a name for himself to star and feature on the big screen. It’s a trend most artist have fallen for and some a good and some a better off doing music.
With four albums under ones belt, comes change. Change can be influenced and badly carried into ones work. F.A.M.E is Chris’ recent work and his badly done thus far. F.A.M.E is a combination of tracks he did on other projects and songs he was fooling around with. This really feels like a pressured project with less creative management. How does your management let you release this? The album is a combination of Chris’ last mixtapes and the music trending topic, Europop. The album feels so rushed that the song with teenage sensation Justin Bieber sounds ok, for a leaked track.
The album’s first single ‘Yeah x3’ came with its own controversy. It is rumoured to believe that Chris stole or sampled Calvin Harris’ beat. We’ve been dancing along to sampled music for a while now, some really don’t care. Followed by a song which I believe must have Soulja Boi’s filthy hands on it. “Look at me now” is the second single taken off the album and need I say it sounds ridiculous. His attempt to sample a Michael Jackson beat also sampled by SWV for ‘Right Here’ is appalling. ‘She Ain't you’ is the victim of badly produced sample. Maybe it was a great idea until delivery.
F.A.M.E is obviously influenced by Europe pop. It’s really safe to say we have lost the melodic and soulful Chris. Since some genius out there told Chris he sounds AMAZING as a rapper, this fool doesn’t know when to utilise his new “skills”. Chris’ rapping skills haven’t really sustained an album status, maybe for another co-joint mixtape. His choice in lyrics are close to whack and have to be seriously carved, he could hurt himself.
This album should have been scheduled for release maybe in December or early next year. We understand it takes time to perfect songs; maybe it’s what he needed. The reason this album will fail will be because of the pressure, lack of planning and lack of focus. I will compare him to his ex. Rihanna transcended from dark pop with ‘Rated R’ and moved to Europop with ‘Loud’. With her, it’s allowed of her to keep on changing because she can’t sing. Chris on the other hand has been the young soul in music and amazing with ballads. His writing skills are undoubltly phenomenon. Now with this atrocious work, he has jumped onto the band-wagon and horribly failed at it.
All artists have their low career moments. Let’s hope this will impact an “ah-ha” moment for Chris. Of cause the album is not all bad from start to finish. Tracks that are worth wasting your money on are, ‘All Back’, ‘Beg For it’, ‘Paper, Scissors, Rock’ ft. Timbaland n Big Sean and ‘Wet The Bed’ Ft. Ludacris. Yes, it will not be a great album without great collaborations, debatable production and less controversy, after all what’s fame without controversy?
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Red, Rauchy, Reloaded Rihanna
Rihanna turned into a superstar not so long ago thanks to hip-hop mogul Jay-Z, singing her to his label. This 22 year old fashion forward and now icon has been through the good and bad phases of fame and with that behind her she continues to make music.
With five albums under belt, its only fair to move with the strong Rhirhi wave and let her reinvent herself with every album she releases, effortlessly. 'Loud' is her recent project and its not what one would expect from her last album, 'Rated R'.
The latter was dark and was a perfect venting session for herself but not her fans. Rihanna decided to also jump on the bandwagon and follow the dance inspired sounds. She moved away from her reggae debut sound to sounding more like The Black Eyed Peas.
'Only Girl (In the World)' is the albums first single which is a club song and a cross over hit which is dominating chats and air waves. Followed by the more publicised collaboration 'Whats My Name ?' featuring former lover, Drake. 'Whats My Name ?' is a beautiful song, its even better that Drake didn't attempt to sing, but its another great collaboration done well in relation to Rihanna's career in 2010.
Another hit, 'Cheers (drink to That)' is another lazy summer song, perfect for the responsible party lifestyles we all have. The producers dumped Avril Lavigne sound which makes 'Cheers' a bit annoying. 'Loud' is not only composed with only potential club hits but also slow and sexual music.
'Skin' is a more 'raunchy' and slow also in that light is S&M which raises eyebrows with lyrics like ''Sticks and stones may break my back but chains and whips excite me''. Following her major hit of the year with Eminem with 'Love the way you lie' part 1 which is found in Shaddy's album, 'Recovery,' sees a more slow and more vocal part 2. Rihanna now features Eminem with a more mellow sound but a direct lyric approach like Love the way you lie part 1.
Nicki Minaj also makes an appearance on 'Raining Men' which join the Trinadadian Tobagan n Barbados to a coastal babes a wet collaboration. Another songs which i think should have been deleted are 'Man Down' and 'Fading' were a waste of material, although Rihanna did attempt a reggae comeback which now makes her sound ridiculous. The disappointment to this album is that she didn't include more of her ballads which she crafts then beautifully.
Most songs were penned by her and had full creative control of 'Loud.' Rihanna's image really reflects her music, from her lack of clothes and her 'too much sexy image' also draws a "loud" attention. This is album is loud is creative and smartly written with producers like StarGate, The Runners, Polow da Don, Tricky Stewart, Soundz and Alex da Kid.
Mr West and his Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy
Kanye West needs no introduction in the music industry but his portfolio will include hits for the likes of Jay-Z, Foxxy Brown, Goodie Mob, Lil Kim, Beyoncé, Alicia Keys, Mariah Carey and many more.
Kanye has proved that hip-hop has the potential to grow, creatively. Kanye helped to transcend hip-hop with his most critised album '808 & Heartbreak' to his most recent album, 'My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy.'
My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy is a dark-introspective, funny and bold album. Despite the 'Good Friday specials' that Kanye committed to deliver to his fans, he still managed to pull through another amazing album. He basically committed to releasing a single that might be featured in this album every Friday. Although the album received mixed reviews its still an amazing album.
The albums first single 'Power' featuring vocals from a neo-soul artist Dwele is the albums first single. The single didn't receive so much radio love as expected but did do well on the charts. My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy sound moved away from his last release '808 & Heartbreaks' to what sounds like all of his album 'College Drop Out,' 'Late Registration' and Graduation combined. On production, Kanye seems untouchable especially working some of the best in that field.
'My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy' is composed of 13 tracks which make a 70 minute of Kanye's dark humor and a long list of collaborations. Kanye is always known to collaborate out of the hip-hop scene. 'The Blame Game' featuring John Legend which seems to be an open letter to his former lover, Amber Rose (model and socialite) which gets too graphic and raw with actor and comedian, Chris Rock at the end.
Followed by his somewhat an apology to his fans about his recent behaviour including his incident with Taylor Swift. 'Runaway' featuring Pusha T is an amazing song driven by the piano Kanye gets sincere and a bit emotional. Kanye does sing but not as much as he did on '808 & Heartbreaks'
'Monster' featuring Jay-Z, Rick Ross, Nicki Minaj & Bon Iver is a brilliant song but the title did cause a major stir between MC Hammer, Jay - Z and Kanye. MC Hammer wanted to expose Jay-Z and Kanye as members of the Illuminati on Halloween of 2010 via the social network, Twitter. The title of the song is not pleasant but how the featured artists give their all to execute one of the best songs in this album.
'My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy' is well crafted, every song sounds like a hit including 'All Of the Lights' which sees a long star stared artists. Also something that Kayne hasn't done in a while is include a poem or poet in one of his songs. 'Who Will Survive In America?' is a beautiful but too raw poem on how Gil Scott-Heron sees America from what is was too how it has turned out.
Kanye is also known and credited for his smart sampling, his credits run form Manfred Mann's Earth Band (So Appalled produced by Swizz Beats), 'Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow' performed by Smokey Robinson (Devil in a New Dress), Black Sabbath with Iron Man (Hell of a Life produced by No I.D.), 'In High Places' by Mike Oldfield (Dark Fantasy) and many more sampled songs.
'My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy' is one of the most sold recodes of 2010 which overall makes this is an ingenious piece. The old Kanye West is back with a bang followed by his old friends, controversy and success.
Monday, December 6, 2010
From Writer to Hitmaker, say hi to Bruno Mars ....
Remember the name - you're going to be hearing a lot more of it.
Bruno Mars is the man behind the year's biggest hits: K'Naan's 'Wavin' Flag', Cee Lo Green's 'F**k You', Travie McCoy's 'Billionaire', B.O.B's 'Nothing On You', and Flo Rida's 'Right Round'.
Now, on his debut album, the prolific songwriter proves he can sing too.
Born Peter Gene Hernandez and nicknamed after the famous chubby wrestler Bruno Sammartino, on 'Doo-Wops & Hooligans' he showcases the major influences he grew up listening to: mostly doo-wop music by the likes of The Temptation and Three Tops.
But, as is to be expected from the man whose songs ruled the charts in 2010, he also incorporates pop, reggae, and soul influences. Some old school R&B and rock 'n roll elements also come into place, reminding you of Elvis Presley, Michael Jackson and The Isley Brothers.
In fact, his songwriting skills can be compared to Raphael Saadiq's and his singing to Jason Mraz, but he balances the two with his fusion of sounds and instruments.
To help craft his sound, Bruno hooked up with ersatile producers such as The Smeezingtons, Claude Kelly, Needlz, and Dwayne 'Supa Dups' Chin-Quee. The guest roster is remarkably short though - Cee-Loo and B.O.B. show up on 'The Other Side', while Damian Marley appears on 'Liquor Store Blues' - but that's clearly to leave the focus on Mars himself.
His falsetto voice blends in well with every one of the diverse songs, be it the catchy first single 'Just the Way You Are' or the dark-romantic 'Grenade', making 'Doo-Wops & Hooligans' a perfect album if you want to reminisce about old school R&B and pop-rock.
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